My name is Vicki Moore, and I am the mother of a little human called Elijah,
who was co-created by my husband-to-be Greg. Elijah was born in September 2014,
but the journey of Motherhood did not start smoothly. He was admitted to the Neo
Natal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) twelve hours after birth, and was there for
nine days, eventually being diagnosed with a serious heart defect called ‘Tetralogy
Of Fallot’. He later required open-heart surgery at just six months old. Fortunately,
Elijah is now a typical little toddler, creating all sorts of chaos wherever he
goes. However, it is only now, after eighteen months, and a diagnosis of Post-Traumatic
Stress Disorder, that I feel I can begin to talk about what it’s really like to
have a baby in NICU, and to watch them go through surgery, and recover. It is
my hope that this blog will help others in the same boat, and I’m looking
forward to relating to all you other mums, and sharing all our different stories
and experiences together. This is for laughing about the highs and lows of raising
a toddler. These are the honest confessions of a NICU Mum.
Recently, there have been so many articles and posts about mum Guilt. As a NICU mum I felt beyond guilty when Elijah was born. Check out my Mum Guilt post on Selfish Mother. However, where is the dad guilt? Do dad's feel guilty? Or is this something us mums take upon ourselves to feel? Another thing as a mum we feel we have to take on (and then feel guilty about) because they don't? Is it a common mis conception that dad's don't feel guilty about anything? When you have a baby, guilt is a huge part of motherhood, it's almost instant. The whole breast vs bottle argument is thrust in your face once your baby is born and your decision is then criticized by anyone and everyone. Something that dad cannot really feel guilty about, if baby doesn't latch and you formula feed (I think whatever you want or have to do is fine!). As an equal partner in bringing the baby into this world and raising them, do dad's feel what we do? Are the...
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