When you think of Home Alone I am sure like me you think of
young and innocent Macaulay Culkin
(before he turned into a drug fuelled skeleton) being ‘forgotten’ and left at
home while his parents went on holiday. The loveable scamp cheekily left
marbles and booby traps to fool two bumbling robbers while he ate ice cream all
day. Never once was anyone truly concerned with his safety of being left alone,
nor were his parents prosecuted for neglect when they finally realised they
left their son at home. Now, what about if we replace Culkin with a 10-month old
baby? Being left on their own in a locked house? I am guessing that wouldn’t be
a Christmas family favourite.
Ask any parent if they would leave their 10-month old baby on their own and I am pretty certain there would be some Gary Barlow worthy eyebrow raising in your direction. I have spent days with Elijah glued to my side, making drinks, lunch and doing the washing etc. wishing I could leave him for a sec to go for a wee. Sometimes I have left him on the play matt or in his bouncy chair for 2 minutes when I have nipped upstairs to the toilet. We spend days assessing what is and isn’t safe for our children. So how on earth did ‘Daikin1’, come to the conclusion she was being a responsible parent when she made the decision to go to the shops and leave her child? Now, we have child proofed and installed stair gates I am happy to leave him in the living room watching Mr Tumble while I go for a wee in peace! Or make a coffee. Would I leave him to go to the shop? No. Would I leave him to nip to my neighbour’s house which might I add we are attached to. No. I wait until Greg gets home to put the bloody bin out! If he is napping I will wait for him to wake up to put the washing out!
Am I protective? Yes, I bloody am. I believe all parents should be but considering I am a NICU Mum maybe I am more so. Surely, it is our right that until our children are old enough to deem risk for themselves we have to protect them from it? If it means that Greg has to get my parcel or I wait until Elijah wakes up and have to make 5 trips up the stairs so be it. Or here is an idea why don’t you get someone to sit with your child? Or get your friend to pick the bloody thing up. Nothing is that important to put your child at risk.
Elijah wasn’t quite
walking at 10m but he was moving. He was mobile, pulling himself up, crawling
and cruising. Who is to say he wouldn’t wake up from his nap. You really cannot
guarantee how long a baby will nap for. In a routine or usual habit, whatever
you just cannot. You could not guarantee that the baby wouldn’t pull himself up
on his cot and get over the side. What happens if they fall and break a bone?
That the stairgate isn’t closed and they fall down the stairs? Or that they are
ill, how quickly do children come on being ill? Elijah literally just chundered
all over the living room and has been fine all day. Who is to say they won't choke on
their sick and suffocate? Elijah has been sick in his sleep before and although
he can roll on his side I have had to flip him over to avoid him choking. She
bangs on and on about how she was gone for 7 minutes, her child could be dead
in 7 minutes. The risk of SIDS is also still present with a baby of that age.
I may be slightly
neurotic, slightly paranoid and tend to think the worse will happen however I
sort of think I have learnt that right considering what we have been through on
Elijah’s journey. And also what we have had to witness him go through. So as
soon as I even think about a baby being left alone even when sleeping, I just
feel like my mind is literally going to blow up. All I can think about is the
risk involved to her child and herself for example;
What if there is a
fire? The baby is in a locked house with no way to save or defend itself. Fires
do happen more than you think, things flood on electrical items, chargers and straighteners
blow up or a laptop overheats.
Yes, it is not as
common during the day but what if someone breaks in and takes the child? I will use this time to allude to the case of Madeline Mcann where the parents where only meters away from the room. Yes, the chances are slim for someone in daylight breaking in a house and taking a baby without anyone seeing or hearing but as we all know it can happen.
The mum herself could fall down the stairs and knock herself out; who will know the baby is left locked in the house?
What if she is hit
by a car and killed? How long until the baby is found?
I know these are
all extreme circumstances but they do happen. Yet more and more parents are
taking the risk and leaving their children alone. Arrests happen every day to
parents in the UK who have left their children alone. Including babies.
Recently there was the case of the couple who went out for a night out and left
their young baby wedged in the bed, the child slipped down and tragically suffocated.
Why are people taking the risk? Especially with babies? The fact that a
baby/toddler and young child depend on you for everything to look after them,
to care and nurture but most of all to protect them from harm why are we leaving
them unprotected from possible fatal threats?Gov.UK advises that the law doesn’t actually state an age when you can leave a child on their own. But it is an offence to leave a child if it places them at risk. It goes on to advise that babies, toddlers and young children should never be left on their own and parents can face prosecution for neglect if they do so. The CPS when charging parents look at a number of factors, the age of the child, the period of time they were left, the potential dangers and the environment they are left in. The case of Tim Haines the father who left his ill baby in the car outside the pharmacy he went into to get Caplol, was in fact charged but later won his appeal to have the charge overturned. You could also face prosecution if you leave a child in the car while you go and pay at a petrol station. Here is where the law needs further clarity and harsher punishments need to be enforced for those irresponsible parents leaving babies at home.
But honestly ‘Daikin1’,
I don’t know you, I don’t know your circumstances but if you feel the need to
get clothes and try them on that much get a bloody sitter for Christ sake. Hay
even I will do it, but please do not leave a baby napping on their own in a
locked house. 7 minutes, 50m whatever. Take it from a mum who has watched her
son endure a NICU stay, and recover from open heart surgery, you do not want to
put your child at risk for them to have to go through something this.
So the question is....
Would YOU leave your baby alone in the house?
I would love to know what you think!
So the question is....
Would YOU leave your baby alone in the house?
I would love to know what you think!
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