Do you all remember my ever so optimistic natural birth
can read it here. However, spoiler alert, it didn’t happen. What did happen was something no one was expecting. Wednesday the 5th July… a mundane sort of day
spent cleaning the house and doing the weekly shop. With Greg going back to
work the next day I was determined to make sure everything was ready for when
this baby arrived! I was three days off my due date and still hadn’t had one
single sign this baby was imminently coming. I had been receiving messages from
quite a few people asking if baby was here yet. I was getting fed up as
everything I had tried to induce labour failed miserably and every morning for
the last two weeks I woke up disappointed I wasn’t in labour! I gave up,
walking didn’t help, pineapple made me sick and I was beginning to tire of the raspberry
leaf tea. This baby was staying put. In the evening I put Elijah bed, and we began to settle down
for the evening. Fajitas had been served
and consumed an…
It’s ugly, the lowest I have ever felt. Never have I felt
more of a burden to everyone that I have to rely on them to help me look after
the children I created, that I chose to have. 1.You will feel like you’ve failed as a mother.
There is no getting away from it. The guilt is all consuming. All day you play
the comparison and blame game, if everyone else can cope why can’t you? There must
be something wrong with me, I am a bad mother. Everyday, these thoughts play in
your head. They take over and trap you, they trick you. 2.The stigma of having post-natal depression is
real and very much alive today. The walk to the doctors will be heavy and
loaded with anxiety that you will suddenly have your child taken off you, and
you fear the judgement of others. You need help more than anything, but it is
the last thing you feel like you can ask for. It is the hardest thing to ask
for from anyone. 3.You are not just ‘depressed’, you are angry,
resentful, guilty. You will shout, yell and soon beco…
Let me introduce you to the post partem body.
A glimpse into what a post partem body really looks like.
I am here to dispel a few myths.
You will not "snap back into shape" or be back in your skinny jeans a week after giving birth.
We are force fed headlines of celebs "boucing back" everyday so we believed we would too.
When we didn't we felt like failures.
We didn't know what our bodies would look like after birth, we were in the limbo of us regaining it back for ourselves and realising it was not quite the same as what it used to be.
We were not prepared that our stomach didn't instantly go down, our boobs would leak everywhere and our VJJ looked like a car crash. We have been made to feel ashamed.
Ashamed of the body that grew and gave birth to a baby.
We are not taught to accept and embrace our post partem body. Instead everyone tells us it will be okay you will loose the baby weight. Have you tried this diet? This exercise plan? Have y…